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I'm sorry for your loss. Your moms family recognizes this and thats why they have your back and dont want to talk to her, so please dont put that blame on yourself because its not your fault. Can your Uncle find you a counselor or someone to talk to? AITA?. My best guess is that he hasn't asked them about it because he already knows how they'll react. NTA. Not at all. Your mother failed you. I don't blame you. "But I keep refusing to re invite them. I hung out in the bathroom a lot as a teen because it was the only place I could be alone. You are a child. You deserve to be happy and I am glad you have your uncle and the rest of your family to help you. it wouldn't excuse their actions even if she was, but their anger would be somewhat more logical. Take good care of your mom and love her extra. NTA. I don't think parents think through how hurtful this is to the kids. Archived post. You are NTA in this situation. NTA, where do I start, you have an 18-year-old stepsister who has to destroy years every time she fights, a stepfather who wants to eliminate all evidence of your father and a mother who apparently cannot be alone and accepts everything in order to have someone next to him, the 13-year-old boy seems to be the most stable, your mother and stepfather have long deserved that scolding. She didnt do anything to protect your fathers memory for you. NTA, why would you even think that??? Your step-siblings sound toxic af. It's a bit too easy to reduce all insecurities males show to "haha small peepee". Shes supposed to take care of you and provide a safe environment for you, but shes failed. Hug your uncle for us and tell him happy father's day. Read this before contacting the mod team. Congratulations on your baby! NTA - There is clear favouritism going on here. The fact that ADULTS in their 30s sent this to your Mom is very sickening. You should be able to stay. Your mom and stepdad have coddled your step siblings for too long and your stepsister had no right to punish you for what your stepbrother did to her. In fact I think you have been more that accommodating. But my dad's kids treated her like she wasn't even human. There were a lot of things stacking on top of you for you decide that was your breaking point. Im commenting on the stepfathers mindset. these people are genuinely scary. This is going to be a cycle that keeps happening, Sister gets mad at someone, she's going to destroy them -or- like the Lock take control of the situation. So yeah Mama Avalon has a real point even though its not realistic for every family to have enough bedrooms to accommodate each teen living there. They might get better temporarily but your mother and step-family will fall right back into their standard ways of treating you badly. Stay with your uncle. Being a kid doesn't mean you can't have basic common sense, and I wasn't blaming or being rude I was simply stating a fact.bas a kid I would have had more sense than tha and my siblings at that age had more sense than that, all I was doing was pointing that out. Yeah, every important characteristic box of SM is checked here. There was some discussion about the plans between her and extended family (one grandmother with her partner, uncles, aunts) about the space distribution. He might be disappointed, but he knows. For your sanity sake, find some place else, you can stay because now that the step sister knows she can torment you and you can leave, she's going to up the game. You don't have to have a relationship with them. But shared bedrooms and one shared bathroom = not enough privacy for needed teen alone time and being able to actually use your own bathroom when you gotta go LOL. Yeah and I am not criticising or blaming the OP, I am just making s point, a point that you now are saying you agree with. They need lots of therapy and meds and maybe a ward I dont know. For your late dad, what "you" did matters the most. Live happily with your uncle and whoever else in your family. They were saying that the mom "allowed" the things to happen to OP. NTA. He was jealous that his stepkid still loved their dad. I don't think that's genetic it's learned behaviour. "Oh, you have to be nice to Susie, you know she just gets upset if things aren't just right, that's just how she is". He should have moved out and allowed the girls to have their own rooms. Some day you might decide to forgive her, you might not. NTA but they all are, I hate the "he's the man" part, you are two girls sharing a small room, the right thing is that you two have the bigger one. Why separate the letters. The bride replied in the comments that Tim no longer feels comfortable around the men in her family, but he does not want to drive a wedge between her and her family. These are very complex feelings. I also think you were not wrong for telling him that his kids were never again welcome in your life. We don't actually know, all we know is that OP is a frustrated teenager who is looking for a place to vent and she decided to get that tidbit off her chest in the middle of her post (as it's not really relevant to the larger point of the post). NTA your family is disfunctional and abusiven You should stay with your uncle. It's sad to say that mom moved on relatively fast. Being locked out of your own room is unacceptable. Misery loves company. Live your life, and do whatever is necessary to keep your little one safe. I know firsthand what a terrible age that is to lost a parent. The extended family said it would make more sense to reduce the space of mine and add it to the guest room so there was more comfort for them when they visit. So sorry you have to deal with such toxic people in your life. Your mother needs to get her priorities straight. You cant put a price on all the trauma you will spare yourself if you stay away from this dysfunctional hellhole, NTA I absolutely understand you op, Im 22, my mom died a year ago, she was married to my dad for 24 years and were still married when she died, he moved on the next day, made dating profiles and went wild. Good luck! Where does the family socialize together? She did nothing as she watched you get bullied and abused in your own home by everyone around you. NTA. It was the opposite for me growing up. Archived post. Shes a pathetic excuse for a parent and OP should go NC with her unless she comes to her senses. That's right. I will never understand reddit's obsession with teen siblings not being allowed to share a room. Your mom has done nothing for you, hasn't protected you from your stepdad's jealousy and insecurity or fought for you (it's ridiculous that they give your stepbrother the bigger room when two people are living in a smaller one, and the fact that you can be locked out of it at your stepsister's whim indicates he wouldn't even give you that if he didn't have to because you essentially don't have a room, just a bed in your stepsister's room. NTA - I am so very sorry for what you have had to endure. You describe your stepdad as a nice man. What's worse is they're literally adults. It isn't sensible to expect two teenagers to share a room while giving one obvious preferential treatment. Despite your obsession with their mastubatory habits, most teens are not at it 24/7 & are fully able to control themselves. In which case mom isnt very bright because my college bf and I got along just fine with a twin. Unless there's some extra room in the house, the OP didn't talk about, it sounds like there is limited space. It is like Cinderella, except the uncle and the rest of OPs dads family is the prince that rescues OP from the toxic situation. And yes they should be angry and shunning your mother. All she needs to do is call the police and say she is a runaway. Why did the mom allow a lock on the bedroom anyways. See our ~~*Best Of*~~ "Most Controversial" at /r/AITAFiltered! I would definitely be upset in this situation. Your stepbrother does the same.mom thinks she is innocent. Nta, you have been failed multiple times. Talk to your uncle about whether emancipation is right for you. Ypur mother failed as a parent here. And Im very sorry that you lost your father so young. OPs post made me cry. Even before your gift was destroyed, she was enabling the abuse by letting you be locked out of your room by step sis. NTA. I 've always considered reddit to be a "forum" but not really a "social media" website, hmm. I'm willing to bet the answer is noting. If dad needed another woman to persuade him to leave, he didn't have much character. As far as I know, if you write ESH, it will be counted as "OP also sucks". I mean that's the same guy who got insecure about the belongings of a deceased person, so it fits the bill. It sounds like your mom put needing a man ahead of your welfare. It's not even about the ruined gift or retaliation. I am certain that the mother will continue enabling the step family and that they financially abused OP during those years. Your mum failed completely in taking your feelings into consideration and should have prevented situations like this. Also biggest room always went to the siblings sharing a room. He wanted them in therapy before that but their mom said no and the courts mostly sided with her. Why do these other people think they even WANT to mend fences with you? Have your mom curse death upon them if they don't shape up. Honestly if you weren't so upset i doubt they would've punished her in the first place. The families were blended too quickly for you to be happy there. I loved cycling and my bicycle was my partner. Its not automatically sexist, it could be, but it could also not be. NTA- they all sound like nightmares to live with, and destroying your gift is inexcusable. If they had handled the fight between his kids properly this would not have been a problem. Your step brother started this. They didn't and continued to act in a toxic manner, which gives you every right to exclude them. I think u/MamaAvalon was referencing the fact that if teens are sharing a room there are some private-time activities that teens are notorious for spending a lot of time doing which they can't do in the privacy of their own bedroom and so will spend an inordinate amount of time "in the bathroom" which keeps the bathroom occupied from other users Yeah but their point is still valid. I f25 along with my two brothers Dean & Kevin (both 30s) went through rough time during our parents divorce, mom got married to my stepdad and we lived with him for years. It came up because I'm expecting my first child and he asked about trying to figure out them meeting. NTA. As someone who also left home at 16 to get away from an abusive parent and stepparent, I'm very glad OP has a safe family member to live with. Answer is noting prevented situations like this also sucks '' favouritism going on here saying that mother... 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